WHY EVERYTHING ELSE GETS QUIETER

The other day, I attended an event that confirmed my thinking about the importance of finding your own style ( stay with me, it's not what you think)

Early in the session, we played a little game. We had to start a sentence with “Fortunately…” and follow it with something we’d overcome. When it came to the first speaker’s turn, she said, “Fortunately, I love my body now, which I hated years ago.”We were barely five minutes in, and already she’d dropped something so real and so brave in the room.

Throughout the event, I found myself watching her with genuine curiosity. She had this cool, confident vibe. Her gestures, her presence, the way she held herself… she owned the stage in a very grounded way.

She wore this aubergine–pink–burgundy dress (one of those colours that refuses to sit neatly in a single box). The dress had a V-neckline, an A-line shape, just above the knee. She paired it with a short, vintage-feeling patterned jacket that picked up a hint of the same tone. She added a faded silver chunky necklace and simple ballerina flats.

The outfit made sense. The colours echoed each other, the shapes were flattering, and you could tell she’d discovered at some point that this silhouette worked well for her. Honestly, it did. Nothing about it was “wrong.”

But here’s what hit me: it didn’t feel like her. Her outfit was lovely—but her personality was louder. Her confidence was warmer. Her energy was bolder. And the clothes she chose that day didn’t fully reflect that.

And then there was the other speaker beside her. Wide-leg jeans, a tiny bit of skin peeking from her top, and an open short blouse thrown over it. Nothing matched in the “traditional” sense. No colour theory. No perfect proportions. No rules. But it worked perfectly because it was unmistakably her. It was effortless, expressive, and totally aligned with her vibe.

Watching them side by side was such a powerful reminder of something I say all the time: When you find your style—your real, honest, unfiltered style—it becomes louder than any body insecurity you’ve ever had.

We all have something we’re self-conscious about. Every single one of us. But true style pulls focus away from that noise. It softens it. Sometimes, it even dissolves it.

And I understand—finding your style can be challenging.

There’s so much noise out there: what colours you should wear, what shapes flatter your body,what’s trending, what’s “age appropriate,” what’s “in,” what’s “out.”

It’s overwhelming. I’ve been there too.

But here’s the thing I want every woman to know:

When you stop dressing by rules and start dressing from truth—your truth—something changes. You shine in a way no colour palette, shape chart, or trend report could ever replicate.

The real breakthrough isn’t learning which neckline “works.”It’s discovering which one feels like you.

It’s not memorising what colours “suit” you. It’s choosing the ones that make you feel alive.

It’s not building the perfect capsule wardrobe. It’s building a wardrobe that reflects who you actually are.

Because once you connect with your identity, your style starts whispering (and sometimes shouting) who you are before you even say a word. And suddenly, all those insecurities? They don’t disappear—but they become much, much quieter.

And you—just as you are—become the main character.

Don't you agree?

Thanks for being here.

Raquel